Saturday, August 15, 2009

Your Thoughts?

As I'm sure you realize, we are far from being out-of-the woods, as far as this baby (or these babies) are concerned. I'm feeling great & so far, have no symptoms (I think I should be considered 4w5d today) & our 1st u/s is scheduled for Tuesday to see what we can see in there. We're VERY excited, but VERY cautiously optimistic at the same time.

But, regardless of what happens, I need some input from my readers concerning the direction you would like to see this blog take now, particularly those of you who are still in the trenches of infertility. Of course the name of the blog will not change, as I will always remain infertile; however I also remember what it feels like to be one of the ones who is "left behind." I remember how much it hurt and how I felt so certain that my dream to be a mommy would never be realized and I would forever be left behind. I couldn't live with myself knowing that this blog has made someone (especially another infertile) hurt and feel the same way.

At the same time, however, I know that when I was hurting, I did take comfort in knowing that even though these women had struggled and hurt just like I did, they somehow found joy again and eventually saw their dreams come to fruition. Whether it be through adoption like my bloggy buddy Melissa, or adoption & then a surprise pregnancy like my buddy Missy, and the countless other blogs (miracle stories) I follow in my sidebar and in my profile, I have learned that there are many roads that could lead you to the end of your journey.

So here is where I need your help. Where would you like this blog to go? Obviously, I'm not going to be spouting off about my woes of pg symptoms (because I remember how many times I saw other girls complaining and I thought about how I'd give my right arm for their morning sickness and round-ligament pain), but I also know the reality that it would be very hard not to talk about a pregnancy at all...and I don't want to lose any of you as readers, so I would greatly appreciate an email or comments about the new path that this blog will take.

Thank you for your continued prayers!

9 comments:

Ter said...

Well, I can't really judge because I follow your blog even though I do not have fertility problems. I do know what it is like to long for a child, and that's why I've been here cheering you on. I know that you're not out of the woods yet but your story is still your story, you know? You will provide hope for those who are going through what you have gone through this far. Your true loyal followers will continue to follow you. I think if you put a disclaimer at the top of your blog for any new infertile couples who may come across your blog, they will be aware of the current situation before they decide whether to read your blog or not. I only know you in bloggyville but you have been supportive of my own situation, so I think you'll continue to be supportive to others who are still struggling.

Amy said...

Teri, when I was TTC I had another blog I kept. I wrote in that blog for two years. I started it after we'd been TTC for 13 months, and kept it until Sean was about 8 weeks old. For me, it was JUST a TTC/infertility blog, and I just couldn't write in it anymore after we were done TTC and our child was born. It now serves as a nice journal for me to look back on, and I write in The Dew Baby regularly. You could consider starting a new blog if you want. But whatever you do, make sure you document your pregnancy. Every twinge, cramp, leak, vomit, and headache. Also every ultrasound, every heart rate, every kick, every baby hiccup, and every kiss you & your husband share during your pregnancy. Whether you do it here or you start a new blog, it's up to you. But write it all down. You don't believe it now -- I sure didn't -- but it'll FLY! And if you do decide to write in a new blog, I'd love to read it!!!

Melissa said...

I know you will never forget where you came from and I know from personal experience that the pain of IF will always be with an infertile.
I would suggest either putting a disclaimer before a post that might be about your pregnancy, or creating a separate blog about your pregnancy and baby(ies).

Erin said...

I had an opinion until i read the other comments...and they summed it up for me. It is your blog. Do/say what you need to. You will make the right choice.

mjenningsdesigns said...

From one infertile to another I believe your story is important to tell...I want to hear all of it and though I very personally never "got pregnant" I am thankful to be your friend...I want to hear it all and I don't want you to censor it...I know that for those of us who have struggled to have our babies have so much in common as Mommies. You will know what I am talking about soon. I thank God every single day that I "was" infertile...every single day! Hugs to you and praying for you!!!

Tridentine Wife said...

I think you should still talk about your pg, it's very exciting and keeps many women hopeful that some day God willing, it might happen for them as well. Ultimately you just have to do what feels comfortable to you. Good luck with the u/s I'm praying all goes well.

Kara said...

Whatever you decide, know that it's OK to complain. So many of us infertiles feel so guilty complaining about being pregnant after working so hard to BE pregnant, but honestly, we have every right to complain about puking all night long just like anyone else does. Because that's part of pregnancy. And it's also part of life. Just because we all struggled to GET pregnant doesn't mean we all have super easy pregnancies... in fact, some of us even have HARDER ones, which doesn't seem fair either! :)

Whatever you decide, I want to make sure I'm reading all about it still. :)

Mama Razzi said...

Terri, I know I am recently out of the closet as a lurker, but I want you to know you that you have every right to express the ups and downs of pregnancy. I can't wait to hear your preggo story and how it changes you. I struggled with infertility too for almost 2 years, and even though I remember feeling so jealous of other pg symptoms, guess what, I still had them. And it still felt crummy at times and even now as I look at my 2 boys, I forget what a blessing they are...that being said, please don't feel like you can't be you on here!! Some days of being preggo are gonna stink, some days of being a mommy are going to be hard. But that is okay, and I can't wait to go on that journey with you!! 'Kay...enough rambling! :-)

embieadoptmom said...

It's your blog and your story. Its a miracle. I agree that it gives others hope to follow your REAL life :) It's OK to complain about pregnancy symptoms it that's how you feel. Just keep it real! People will follow and be inspired by your story and gain hope from your experiences!