Friday, September 08, 2006

Encouragement of Friends

One thing that has helped to get me through all of this infertility stuff has been the encouragement and support of family and friends. Honestly, I did NOT want to tell family and friends of our struggles (ok, maybe a few people, but not many) because I really wanted to be able to surprise people - well, now everyone knows of our struggles and it just seems like no one will be excited when we actually do get pregnant. I know, I know...who cares, right? At least we'll be pregnant (I totally agree) but there's that little part of me that just can't help being upset that nothing is turning out like I had planned.

There has been a really positive outcome to all of it, however. You really find out who cares about you in the tough times. My friends have really been so supportive. They call more, send encouraging emails & have just been there for me more than ever before in my life. And our families have been wonderful, as well. I know that it is hard for people who haven't struggled with infertility to know what to say, but our families have been the best! I haven't gotten any of the "just relax and it will happen" (except from my dr.) or "you can always adopt" (because people know how important it is for us to have biological children).

Never take for granted that you actually have children...or that you are someone's child. It really is a wonderful gift - a miracle!


Sandy said...

I always get the "just relax and it will happen" AND the "you can always adopt" Not what I want to hear ;)